For some, the term “sex toys” conjures up this idea of giant, floppy dildos and sillicone fists. Different instances from pop culture has left us to associate them with leather, latex and that creepy room from the “50 Shades of Grey” movies. It’s this erroneous idea that sex toys are somehow automatically deviant.
But don’t worry, you can still be plain vanilla and own sex toys. In fact, you might even own a few of ‘em already, and just haven’t thought to put them to use.
Below, you’ll find a list of 10 different sex-related products to use in the bedroom even if you aren’t that kinky (but wouldn’t mind trying to be).
1. Lubes and Oils
These are essential for a much smoother, frictionless sexual experience. And while you can have fun with some pretty specialized lubes (see: heating and cooling lubricants), just having some lubricant in the bedroom is important, just in case.
2. Specialty Condoms
You should be already practicing safe sex anyway, so feel free to enhance things with condoms like the ribbed ones from Trojan. This doesn’t really count as a sex toy, but just think of it as dipping your toe in the water. Or in this case, dipping your penis in the water.
3. Massaging Candles
You can get candles designed specifically to massage each other with, which means you won’t burn each other with hot wax of real candles. It’s all the fun of being in a Ricky Martin video with none of the danger.
If you don’t get that reference, don’t worry, that music video came out in 1999. If you do get that reference… that video came out in 1999 and you’re old enough to try one of these massaging candles.
4. Blindfolds
Oddly enough, there are blindfolds specifically designed for having sex in, but a regular sleep mask, handkerchief or tie works just as well. This is another easy way to change the power dynamic up during sex and have some fun even if you don’t love the idea of spending hundreds on toys.
5. Wrist Straps
This barely even qualifies as bondage. This isn’t even “Bondage 101.” In fact, this is showing up to a mixer before college starts and barely exchanging a few pleasantries with bondage.
Using wrist straps to tie each other down can be a lot of fun, but if you’re worried about remembering all your sailor knots in the heat of the moment, you can even get a kit that goes under the bed. It’s a great way to avoid you muttering “loop, swoop and pull” under your breath while you’re trying to maintain an air of sexiness.
There are even door jam cuffs if you want to take things to the next level. And if you’re still not convinced to shell out for a few sex toys, some handkerchiefs or old ties can be used in a pinch.
6. A Couple’s Vibrator
One (or both) of you might already have a vibrator lying around, so feel free to incorporate that into your sexcapades at your leisure. But there are also vibrators designed specifically for couples use, like the We-vibe Match.
Without going into too much detail here, they’re designed to stimulate everyone’s favorite parts during penetration. Trust us, this might not be something you’re used to, but you’re not going to regret this purchase.
7. A Cock Ring
If you want to take things a step further, you can also start messing around with a whole bunch of rings. If that makes you think of yourself as a deviant, just think of them as round vibrators … because that’s really all they are. If that still isn’t enough, think of using a cock ring as turning you into a sex cyborg. If that still doesn’t sound good, you’re the worst.
8. A Sex Wedge
This is a potential game-changer. While you can use pillows as support for certain sex positions, the wedge is designed to bone (and get boned on). It’s ideal for giving your the best angle of penetration, whether that’s during doggy-style, the eagle or whatever other animal-based sex position you love.
The only negative here is it’s big. It’s so big that it’s not discreet enough to tuck away into a night stand. Good luck explaining it to guests when you give them tours of your apartment.
9. Sex Kits
If you’re feeling more adventurous, you can pick up a whole range of kits. Think of them as “couples toy starter-packs.” This one even comes with kama sutra cards so you can have board game night and sex at the same time.
10. A Sex Swing
Don’t think of ordering a sex swing as buying a sex toy. Instead, think of it as opening yourselves up to new sex positions. This particular swing packs up easily and gets mounted to your door the same way you’d mount a pull-up bar. If you didn’t sex consider to be strenuous, sweaty exercise before, you will now.
